There are many reasons to give, but this is the most important one. // #BLOGMAS 2018, Day #15 – 16

For some reason, a lot of people would prefer to find many reasons not to give.

Perhaps they don’t believe their actions matter, which is a common belief, I think.

Perhaps they feel a sort of resentment in their hearts. I have suffered, why should you not? If I must suffer, why must you not? And, truly, in those instances, in those feelings, I think, we have not humbled themselves.

We forget sometimes that our reality is a collective effort. Your good fortunes did not come into fruition due to only your specific actions. All of our actions, all of our thoughts, all of our efforts, made your reality. Frankly, we like to take all the credit for the victories, but are reluctant to take credit for the failures. Perhaps that is why we tell poor people to pick themselves up by their bootstraps. To hustle. To stop begging.

I was that person at one point in my life! I was probably greatly blinded by my privileges that I didn’t realize those privileges came from somewhere. I only saw the world through the eyes of a person who did not fail, who did not experience defeat. Who, well, always had their needs met! Always had comfort and safety. Always had a home. Always had a strong, yet elastic, support system.

It wasn’t until I did not have that, that I realized how fragile and unforgiving life is. And, really, how much autonomy we really have — not much. We have less control than most of us like to lie to ourselves about. Everything can disappear in an instance, and a lot of the painful crises we must face in our lives, will have nothing to do with us — our will that makes it so, or doesn’t make it do.

I guess my point is that,

Because life is fragile, because life is unforgiving, because we have less control than we’d like to admit,

Because we survive, we thrive, and because we grow, not alone — but by the efforts of others,

We must give, we must care, we must love each other.




Hello my dear friends and scribblers,

I am sorry for disappearing into the abyss. This has become quite the trend, hasn’t it? 🙂 November swallowed me whole. It wasn’t until last week Thursday, during the last few hours of my shift, that I realized how long it’s been since I’ve written a blog post, or written anything at all, for that matter. There will be more on what I’ve been up to in tonight’s Sunday Scribbles.

Before I get off track, I have quite a spontaneous announcement to make! Yes, you’ve guessed it — I mean, it says it right there in the title! I will be participating in Blogmas this year! The last (and first, and only) time I participated in Blogmas, I didn’t even complete it. Not that you necessarily have to.

That was two years ago. Truth be told, I think at the time, it was a lot more about distraction than anything else. As most of you already know, my husband and I were in the process of exiting an 8-month long court hearing with Mister Slumlord. It’s hard to be in the Christmas spirit, or fake it, when you’re on the verge of becoming homeless.

But, as they say, a lot can change in a year.

I would have never thought, last Christmas, we’d meet our rental broker, Jay, who would single-handedly change our lives forever (by bringing us to Brooklyn, by introducing us to a wonderful landlady whom I trust and respect to such a degree, that I’d welcome her to freely go into our apartment to fix a leaky toilet when we’re not home — something I’d NEVER do, mind you.) But, I digress.

This year, I have so many blessings to be thankful for. And, well, I want to write about them. I want to focus on the positive, the goodness, the mercy, the grace, in my life, and in my heart.

After scouring the internet for hours

well, not *that* long,

Here are 25 Blogmas prompts:

  1. Write a year-in-review. What have you been up to this year? What blog posts you’ve written? What other projects you’ve been working on?
  2. How have you been blessed this year? How have you blessed others?
  3. How do you care for and serve others? What do you believe serving means?
  4. When was the last time you experienced the kindness of a stranger and what happened?
  5. How do you show kindness to others?
  6. What are some personal goals you set for yourself that you achieved this year?
  7. Goals you didn’t achieve? What can you do differently to achieve them this time around? How can you and your readers learn from your mistakes or procrastination?
  8. What are some of your personal goals for next year?
  9. How do you stay focused, motivated, and productive?
  10. How do you express gratitude? How do you cultivate gratefulness?
  11. What does Christmas mean to you?
  12. What are you most thankful for this season?
  13. How do you get into the Christmas spirit?
  14. Share your December/Christmas/Holiday bucket list.
  15. What is it you want for Christmas this year? Both material and immaterial?
  16. What gifts are you giving this year and why?
  17. Share a list of your favorite gifts or stocking stuffers under $10 USD.
  18. Share some creative and frugal ways to celebrate Christmas (i.e. decorate your home, etc.)
  19. How can you show others you love them over this Christmas season without buying them gifts?
  20. Favorite Christmas song(s).
  21. Favorite Christmas film(s).
  22. Where to donate/volunteer this holiday season.
  23. What are some ways to practice self care over the season?
  24. Who are spending Christmas with this year?
  25. What are some habits you’d like to break for the New Year? What are some new habits you’d like to adopt?

Are you participating in Blogmas this year?

If you decide to create your own blog post, please consider coming back to the comments section and dropping a link for me. I’d love to read what you’re up to this holiday season. If anything at all, leave a comment on any or all blogmas post(s) with your answers!

Like I mentioned above, there is absolutely no obligation to complete all 25 prompts. However, I must add that this is a great exercise, not only in reflecting over the reason for the season, whatever that reason may be for you, but it’s also a great way to build a strong habit you can carry into the New Year, which is writing every day.

Let’s spread a little Christmas cheer this year. God knows I need it.